~essence of me~

i have been inspired by a fellow blogger and a IM friend to be more thoughts driven. and one thing that i firmly, solely believe in and that drives me from within is, women rights.

probably due to my family history, or mebbe the first hand experience i get from watchin the women in my life, or even from my instinctive connectedness with the plight of other women who are strangers to me but nevertheless important, i've developed a passion for these issues.

looking at this from a cultural perspective, being an Indian, i know and have read about how disadvantaged women have been in the past and even to a certain extent the present. what the future holds is no longer in the hands of fate but, in our own.even in the times of the RAmayan (a hindu epic) Sita had to burn herself in order to PROVE her chastity to the world, husband included. for those of you who don't know this story, the fire did not consume her, and the world acknowledged her chastity, however, she did not return to her husband, merely because she claimed that though the whole world turned its back on her, he should have known better.

contrary to my cinderella and snow white, as a child, this story frustrtaed me. but now, i look at it in a whole new way. even in those ancient times women were strong enough to endure obstacles to prove their worth. even in those times, women had the dignity and self respect to walk away from their husbands (it was a huge deal then) to stand their ground. even then, there were strong women around and i dont see any reason why, women of the modern age can't draw strength from their selfs.

i see girls who let their lives be dictated by their good-for-nuthing bfs, or aunties who have to do everything for their husbands (inclusive of removing their shoes and socks), ladies who agree to marriage to the wrong guy, just so they don't die alone, girls who allow themselves to be beaten up and abused and girls who simply just stand by and watch as life throws crap at them. i feel for them, i sympathize, i emphatize.

but then again, im sorry for them cause they expect respect from others when they dont respect themselves, they expect love from others when they dont love themselves, they expect others to defend them when they dont defend themselves, they expect others to make their decisions for themselves when the answers are obvious and finally, they expect others to be their voice, when they refuse to speak for themselves.

here's to the strong women in my life, who have and i believe will alwiz stay strong and stay true to themselves and most importantly, acknowledge the inner strength and self respect mother nature has blessed us with and which women across time have fought so hard to prove.

My grandma: for fighting through the near-poverty state and educating all your children. for keeping the family together and always being there.

My mom: for taking the "D" step that changed our lives forever and for the better.most importantly, for finding love again and being brave enough to go against the odds.

My Auntie: for being strong and independent, and brave. for enjoying life's simplest things.

My Mich: for deciding you had enough of a dormant relationship and being proactive and taking a stand, though it hurt.

My Ann: for following your heart and standing up for your rights to happiness.for tolerating more than your share and being the one to make the decision.

My Arathy: for mending the bits and pieces and moving on to achive bigger dreams.

My Kohilah: for not taking shit from people who take advantage of you, for being assertive , for knowing yourself and for now finding that someone special.

My Suha: for always being level headed and charging at live head first. for the confidence you carry within and the faith you have in ur loved ones.

My Shalina: for thriving in spite of the circumstances, for not letting ur past hold you back from the promise of a better future.

My one and all: for being the woman you are.

** i guess no matter how much i try, i'm still driven by emotions, they are afterall the easiest to convey **

<3

**fancy things, will
never come in between
You're part of my entity,
here for infinity
When the world has took it's part
When the world has dealt it's cards
your hand in mine, together
we'll mend your heart.**

**When the sun shine,
we shine together
Told you I'll be here forever
Said I'll always be your friend
Took an oath I'ma stick it out till the end
Now that it's raining more than ever
Know that we'll still have each other**

**for the friends who turned into family**

lazy me

its 4.10pm on a lazy sunday evening.
havent done one bit of my assignment for ethics class (except find a case).
and all i can think about is :"what shall i munch on while watching tv"
procastination at its worst!
ok mebbe not worst la.
i swear there are ppl worst than me.
**that thought makes me feel betta**
SMILES

uncle dearest

i had to blog about this cause i just found it sooooo funny.
my uncle, smart as he is, on the tech side he is....well, like most adults are i assume- not so good! haha

so uncle dearest bought a labtop. and put all his fav old-blaque-white songs in it. then one day some good for nuthin ppl go send him virus. what does uncle dearest do? he curses those ppl and gets his comp fixed. after that he is very careful with his labtop and never trust anyone near it. even us (those who can handle a comp well). trust no one with his DELL.

so one day i happily log into msn and find a certain rosliehussin@hotmail.com (this is the nick) in my contacts list. and i'm like who the hell? then i put the cursor on it and it reveals the real email add, *gasp* uncle dearest!

on my trip to uncle dearest's hse i asked him

(in the car)

Me: uncle dearest, why is your email nick rosliehussin@hotmail.com?
Uncle dearest: (confidently) you know, my lil naive niece, ppl send you virus thru msn. so to trick all those virus senders, i have decided to put rosliehussin@hotmail.com. let those buggers send me virus now. its gonna go there. smart eh?
Me: ROFL!
Ppl in the backseat of the car: ROFL!!

ok it might not be funny 4 those reading, but believe me, i had a good time lauffin. and uncle dearest was just blushin away when we told him that his lil-plan aint gonna work. and obviously why so.