improving life at HELP

HELP University College. a name synonym, if not to everybody, to me at least with self discovery, friends and the religion that unites us all- PSYCHOLOGY! its funny how that as psychology students, we are thought that a well balanced and stress-free life is of utmost importance to an individual. in abnormal psych among other areas in psych, its drilled into our minds that stress could be an important cause of mental disorders. however when the second half of the semester dawns on us, when the due dates are approaching, when the workload seems unbearable -among other problems- we loose our cool, we succumb to the stress which not only jeopardize our work quality but also has the potential to cause us to lash out at loved ones. all these due to the self consuming devil = S.T.R.E.S.S
what do we do about it, you ask?? well that's for you to decide. what can you do about it? you don't need psychology knowledge to know what to do, you just have to know your self well- what works, what doesn't.the most important thing that will need to change in order to have an improved life as an undergrad is the "tidak apa" (couldn't-care-less) mind set so pervasive among students. we go on and on about how stressed we are, how terrible the lecturers are for giving us loads to do, how inefficient the tutors are, but deep down u and i know that we are the cause of our on problems.our lack of planning and effort causes us trouble at the end of the day. then again this might not be true of everyone, but if I'm not wrong this is how most of us- students are.
having said that, there might be many ways to improve student life in HELP, through activities, clubs and what not, but no matter to what lenghts the student council, the club committees, the lecturers and anyone else tries to improve student life, it all boils down to the student at the end of the day if he/she is willing to take the responsibility for him/herself and improve his/her own life as a student in general and a psychology undergraduate specifically. if we open our eyes and ears wide enough, at present there are so many things that can improve student life all around us- sports,internship opportunities,events etc . I'm not saying that it cant get better, but it will need you, you, YOU and ME to bring about that change for the benefit of everyone.its time we stopped sitting around waiting, and entrusting someone else to improve our lives for us. u want a de-stress party? then plan one!see a prob in the way things are run? make your self heard! don't know how? ASK! could'nt care less? well, thats your choice. :)

**moushumi**

just the other day i was watchin this mira nair movie called 'the namesake'. the movie was quite nice plus kal penn was nice to watch. but the thing that attracted me more to the movie is the character of Moushumi. she's a bengal girl who grows up in the US and belongs to a typical male-dominant bengali family(most indian families are). so here goes, she marries Gogol/Nikhil another bengali guy raised in US.

but the thing is, she is an americanized brown women. and she has an affair coz she is afraid that she might end up trapped like her mother and not be able to be anything more than a typical bengali housewife (though she was working and is really an independent women).her husband is also not the typical indian guy. she gets this major job offer in france and she has to turn it down because she's married.and she cant just go flyin away to france leaving her husband and home and all (but she acts as if its her husbands fault).

>>to me i really feel that most ppl hu come from complete families (dad, mom, children), they kinda underestimate the institution of family and marriage. its almost like since they(girls) saw their moms being submissive to their dads dread the idea of giving in even when they have to/must coz they dont want to end up being the subordinate of their husbands. sometimes it can work in a good way too if they come from a complete family wer the parents are loving and equal.

>> i havent been married but i do know the effects of being a child from a broken marriage. u do get on fine (if ur lucky) but there's always this part in you that wonders why couldnt you have a complete family with both parents to love n hate, to lauff and cry . and also how different your life would be if things were different. you dont know how it feels to envy ppl because of the parent that they have and u dont.

>> so, dont marry if you have unresolved issues. and when you do marry and start a family, be responsible enough to do your part for your family and work hard to make it last( and yes sacrifices have to be made sometimes).that doesnt mean you're weak. i'm not sayin that you have to put up wit an abusive partner. but be mindful that not everyone is perfect and divorce is not a sign of strenght wen it is used just to show that you can. for the girls/women divorce is act a sign that u have failed in keeping up a family.and have the decency not to cheat on your husband!

rainbowz

She looked out of the window,
on a dewy Saturday morning,
the dark clouds threatened to fall,
to shower the earth with tiny droplets.
Her skin tingled at the touch of the soft breeze,
a breeze so fresh that it whispered to her,
whispered the forgotten wonders of nature.
greens woke in the company of dews,
and browns stood as solid as ever
proud and tall;
in dark brown soil.
Like a message from up above,
the cottons of the sky parted
and down it shone from the heavens
the golden ray of light.
Together came little crystals of water
It was then she saw it,
Took it all in,
And at once she knew;
a moment to savour.
Closed her eyes,
Remembered every detail forevermore,
nature at it’s finest.
A rainbow on the canvas called
Earth.

shadows of a broken past

bloggin after a long time..
its 2008, a new year, new aspirations, new goals
but then there are the
ol' heartaches, ol' memories, ol' pain.

"i know i deserve much betta, sum1 hu wants to be out with me n not just in the secluded areas wer ppl cant see us.i dont want to feel loyal to you and turn my back against others coz i know i aint worth that much to you. i wanna be able to put u in my past and move on but sumhow i don't and its not because i can't sometimes i think maybe just maybe i dont want to. weird.i dont know what i feel towards u. sumtimes i feel lik calling u up and tellin u dat i x want to be friends, i wan more than that, much more...but i stop myself before the phone rings at your end. i want to see the guy that u once were. not hu u have become coz this new guy seems to me like a put-on. a deliberately worn mask to hide ur self from what, i have no idea. i can rant on all nite but i know it x make a difference.ur the one who told me to stop talkin to you so you could be with your ex, will u ever be any different?why am i so attracted to you after all the heartache?this is the question i need an answer to. it hurts me to be treated lik any other girl, it hurts me to know that im just a hobby, it hurts to see ur indifference to me. on top of all it hurts to know that im also a reason to the pain i feel"

xxx shadows of a broken past xxx

post-eXams

exams are overrrr!

finally..the killer sem has come to an end.

>>after 5 subjects, 3 research projects, a assignment i nearly argued (..or pleaded) with the tutor to not flunk me, drama, misunderstandings, tension, confusion, deadlines, oral defenses, psych colloquim AND exams---i'm FWEEEEEE!!!!<<

i had nitemares about biopsych last night. cant believe the no. of times i woke up dreaming bout the exam paper. thot i was al ready for the damn exam. entered the hall, flipped the paper and nearly dropped off the chair!

the labelling was from pre mid term topics. like WTH?! how m i supposed to know that it was gonna come out when the freakin exam was supposed to be non-cummulative?

lost almost approx. 15 marks there, and thats just all the stuff i x know, what about stuff i 'think' i know but is actually wrong?

haiz!

reached home and it feels odd not to have sumthin to do. kinda wish i had sumthin to look forward to. with all the strikes goin on. my mom x let me even go out!
i neeeeeeeeeeeddddddd a plann!
anyone free?
buzz me! *winks*

silly me

after exactly a month, im finally blogging again.
its been a heck of crazy month! experiments, deadlines, assignments and my cute bosnian classmate (i can practically see my fwenz rollin their eyes! :p) -oh he's verry cute. *dreamy-eyed*.
neway, i'm feeling really tired and sleepy these days till i cant even wake up to miss calls in the middle of the night (thats sayin sumthin!) n my comp acts up exactly when i want to finish up assignments! sheesh! its like my computer deliberately is trying to cause me problems. as if i x have enuff d. haizzz!!
tom im goin shoppin- finally sumthin to look forward to. ann, mich, yuv and me. girls day out, shoppin and food. what could be betta?

notice that this post is so jumbled and doesnt make sense. i x make sense how on earth wud my post?

p/s: the cute guy was lookin yummylicious in blacque T and jeans. ooooooohhh :)

u stupid-O

im currently freakin pissed at a certain thing called...
BPSYCH.net
i spent my precious 1 and a half HOURS tryin to log-in
then crossin n uncrossin my fingers to let it go thru n not get stuck.
stupid msgs were flashed askin us to stop refreshin the page.
-not lik u can blame us!-
NOW i x even gt the tut i wanted!
i hate you
BPSYCH.net!!!!!!